Ways To Learn Your Child’s Love Language
Previously, I have spoken about Greg and I’s love language (you can read about our results here) but I wanted to share with you the importance of learning your child’s love language and how we discovered our sons love language.
The love languages are:
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch
Just like we do, children also express and receive love in their own unique way. Our children have “love tanks” just like we do and it is important to keep there’s full. While it was easy for us to take the couples quiz online, it was a little harder to find out our 5-year old’s but we quickly realized there are clues in every day that identified his primary love language.
How Did We Learn His Love Language?
We began observing him closely and watched how he expressed love to us, to others, we listened to what he requested most often and what he complained about the most, we gave him and couple of options and see which option he most frequently chose and we also simply asked him how he knew we loved him.
In doing this, we found out that his primary love language is Physical Touch. He feels most loved when he holds our hand, or we give him a hug or kiss. I would say his secondary love language is Quality Time, he feels the most loved when we spend time together at Target, or walking to get ice cream, playing together or visiting a museum together.
Once we learned his love language and implemented it consistently we noticed a change in his behavior and we realized that our parenting felt more intimate with him. It made us feel more confidence in our parenting also because we knew that we were meeting his needs.
