Going From Stepmom to Birth Mom…

Before I start I just want to say this little disclaimer: I will always stand by the fact that that being a stepmom does not make you any less of a mom, you ARE a “real” mom. You just didn’t birth a child from your own womb but there are no other differences.

During my pregnancy the thought from going from a childless stepmom to a birth mom has been heavy…. scary almost…..

I have fallen so easily into a maternal role for my stepson, I am not his birth mom but I am a mom to him. I am his caretaker, friend, homework helper, playmate, booboo kisser, discipliner and everything else that comes with being a parent. I have learned to embrace my role and feel good doing it. But all of that is about to change in 2 months…. I am not going to be just a stepmom anymore, I am going to be a birth mom too.

I have spent the last 3 years with an amazing kiddo who showed and taught me how to be a mom. I believe that my son will be blessed with a better mom because of his brother, whom without, I would not be half the woman I am today.

The last few months during my pregnancy I couldn’t help but think will that change? Will my stepson act different towards his brother? Will my stepson resent me or get sad with me because he thinks my love for him has changed?

Or what if….

What if nothing changes? What if we just bring our baby home and my stepson falls in love with him and we just become one big happy family? That is what my heart hopes for. I know in any family, a baby can bring growing pains but I hope that my boys become two peas in a pod. Besides, there are no half siblings in this house, just a whole lot of love.